NOW!
Especially for Dads!
Having
A Chat With My Baby
By
Maya Morgan
Wadhurst, England, May 1994
Maya
Morgan is a workshop leader, Rebirther, Active Birth teacher and mother. English
and German trainings 1988-94
Excerpt from book, BIRTH OF A REBIRTHER, edited by Archie Duncanson
Through
SOURCE
Process & Breathwork I very quickly knew – or had the experience –
there was a whole new dimension to life. Before, I would think certain things or
feel certain things – but with the breath I accessed a space of knowing.
In my second
breathwork session with my very first breath work therapist, I had had
a good breathe and felt I was getting more into it. I can’t remember anymore
what the actual session was about, but at the end the Rebirther left the room to
go and make me a cup of tea. I was just gently lying there quiet and relaxing
even more.
I
suddenly found myself in an experience of being inside my mother’s womb. Part of my mind was trying to tell me that this was not
possible – and yet I experienced a real feeling of what it was like to be an
unborn child inside my mother’s womb. This was a
real memory – as if it was happening right in that moment. I decided to
just go with it and not be afraid of what was happening. I felt overwhelmed with
anger and frustration because I was there very present, though yet unborn, and
my mother was not aware of my presence. She
didn’t listen to me. And yet I tried so hard to get in contact with her. Then
the anger turned into sadness and I cried – understanding that my mother
didn’t have the knowledge – not many women or men had the awareness and
consciousness of the baby’s presence. I could understand my mother and forgive
her, and yet, I felt such deep sadness. One of the fundamental withholding,
negative thoughts I have worked on for years, and healed, was from that time:
“I am not being listened to, what I have to express is not important”. And I
quickly saw how these thoughts had been there in my relationships –
particularly with my mother – throughout my childhood and adolescence.
Before
this experience I had always thought and said to other people that it was
important to talk to the unborn child. But after this experience I just knew
that it was very important.
A
few days after my session I went to a birthday party at which there
was a woman whom I knew a little. She was 6-7 months pregnant and in a lot of
pain because the child’s father had just recently told her that he would not
have anything to do with her or the child. She was sharing all this with me, and
I suddenly had the impulse of sharing my recent breathwork experience with her.
She listened, didn’t say much, and afterwards I felt like it would have been
better if I had not said anything. The party went on and we didn’t see more of
each other. A few days later she phoned me and said:
“What
you told me the other day left a deep impression on me. When I went home after
the party I sat down, put my hands on my belly and started to talk to the baby.
I talked about how afraid and sad I was about this situation. And suddenly I realized
that the baby was really there with me. I
was not alone. We were the two of us. And I knew that I could cope with
everything – because the baby and I were doing it together. You know Maya, my
whole pregnancy has completely changed. This is absolutely amazing.” And yes,
this woman friend had a good birth, and has a truly good and profound connection
with her child (who is now 6 years old). I was glad I had shared my experience.
I
am now pregnant myself, and have, since even before the conception, been aware
of the presence of this spirit friend who has come to live with us.
And I talk to this baby a lot. In the morning when I
wake up: “Good morning, what are we going to do today?” I am aware of it
always being there with me – and make remarks and comments to it, like when
other people talk about what it is like to have a child. Sometimes when we
experience a loud noise I tell the baby what it is – and that it is safe.
It doesn’t really matter whether the child understands or not. There is
communication and awareness of connection, and it is both about daily practical
things, and deep prayers for its health and well-being.
Each day the father of this child comes and puts his hand on my belly –
and sometimes real close – and just talks to the baby, or even sings. I can
feel that the child likes it. Twice I have experienced that when he has been
away on a trip and has rung me up, the child, who otherwise might have been
quiet, begins to move at the sound of his voice – or is it my joyful response
to the sound of his voice? The father is also very conscious of the constant
presence of this new Being.
Editor’s note: Maya Morgan was instrumental in bringing Binnie A. Dansby to Denmark, her native country, where the Danish training began in 1990.
Maya currently offers Antenatal and Postnatal www.BIRTHWISE.uk.com , Active Birth Classes. They are, Yoga based exercises specific for pregnancy, labor and birth; relaxation, visualization and breathing awareness; information, discussion and support. The classes are held near Wadhurst (South of Tunbridge Wells) and occasionally at other venues. For more information please contact Maya Morgan on 44 (0) 1892 784381. email Maya: maya@birthwise.uk.com
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